The title of this post makes me think of this. Poor Bob.
But that's a visual of what many beginning authors fear will happen when their book releases. Most honest writers struggle with this. The initial excitement and hope fades into something else, and those fears can blossom into putrid black blooms.
Did you know there's a guy leading seminars on how to make videos go viral who intentionally falls of a stage and posts the videos on YouTube as examples? The quest for fame does make people do some pretty stupid things.
I get this question from authors who find themselves about to be published. "What if I become a phony?" Well, you know what? Phonies are people who fake it. They don't feel real, so they have to pretend they know what being real is. And they desperately have to prove it to you. But even if you have "coolness" shoved on you, the problems only come when you worry about it. We know the real deal when we see it.
"But won't I have to change?" they ask. I get the concern. It's Holden Caufield's big fear. Maybe the reason Salinger disappeared. I can't jump in and condemn him for it if it is. How do you write without being affected by all that noise? I don't know. May God save us all from that level of public scrutiny. But people will like and not like what you wrote. And everything changes you and everything is an opportunity to invest a little more. Sure, many people say, “God, if you make me famous, I’ll use it for your glory” and then end up having to repent for their screw-ups later. I’ve told several authors I’d only take their book forward if they promised not to become a phony when the accolades came. But most have no trouble b/c they expect very little accolades anyway. And if you're like most people, you are far from the danger of falling off your platform, big or little as it may be. I haven’t seen any dramatic changes in authors who went on to become "famous" in their genre or area of expertise. No matter what you might get from conferences and reading the trades, this publishing thing isn't American Idol.
I once read a great email from Dave Eggers whose postmodern memoir Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius went on to become a #1 bestseller for several months, and launched the resurgence of memoirs, including Lauren Winner, Don Miller, and several others. By the way, here's a great one I'm reading now from an author we could probably all learn something from about this "fame" thing: Thin Places, by Mary DeMuth. In the email, Eggers denounced the perception that fame had made him a phony, contesting that he didn't much care if people thought he'd sold out to success because he was able to do so much more good with it than he'd been able to before. I thought how I'd been so concerned at one time about "selling out" and how adolescent it really was, so I decided to be done with it.
The right question is, "Am I sold out to changing things for the better?" And that's entirely up to you. I’ve had a half dose of fame and I mostly don't like it. Sure it’s nice being “known,” but you’re not really known. And what people do know, they want that from you, so they act as though they have some claim to it. But they don't and you don't have to pander to that. I grew up the oldest son of the senior pastor at a growing church. I was known in our family’s little circle. We were the pastor’s family in our small town, so when I became a big important Christian book editor after college, it took me a while to embrace it. And I still don't embrace the "big" and "important" part. People still expected me to know what I was doing, to share from my inside knowledge, and lead others in the right direction. And like anything worthwhile, my portion of “fame” has been both a challenge and an opportunity. But mostly now, it's an opportunity.
So will I become a phony? Am I sold out to changing things for the better?
People who become phony don’t know themselves. They want to present an image and fit in because they lack assurance about who they really are. Most of us know this, but I know plenty of folks who still fear self-promotion, as though it’s going to overwhelm their fragile egos and make them crazy attention-grabbing loud mouths. If there’s no misunderstanding about where your identity is secured, I don’t see the danger. On the other hand, if there’s a question about you wanting to be liked, affirmed, comforted from a surrogate daddy, or if you smell desperate to be published, that’s pretty hard to miss. The real phonies in publishing usually come in with their entourage well before they have a book. Or any ability to write. The book is just their next panacea in a long line of affirmation fixes that haven’t quite fixed them. And regular folk don't have to worry about becoming one of them.
My best advice for those worried about self-promotion is to do some soul work and ask God to point out any place where there’s still a desperation to be loved, affirmed, comforted, or known. He'll show you if your eyes are open. Then give that to him and let him fill that void in you. If you find your peace in him, no substitute will ever look attractive. You won’t have to shun the limelight and you can use all his gifts for his glory and end up with him smiling on you, praising you for investing wisely. Be realistic and don't expect it to be easy, to have ravenous fans falling at your feet, or ravenous mobs trying to stone you. Most people won't care. It normally takes a long time in publishing to gain people's attention.
Your real goal is that you want to hear those words: “Well done, my wonderful, faithful daughter.”
Faith is gift, not an ability to gain, or a commitment to muster. God supplies faith to those who ask for it. So ask. And use your platform building the same way you’ll use your platform, to highlight the wonders you’ve been shown and to point people to the source, the one who provided your eyes to see it, the people to help you craft it, the readers to receive it, and the opportunities to share it.
As a good friend of mine likes to say, all is grace. And I've discovered it’s really true.
So what part of ALL do we yet not understand?

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